Especially if the relationship ended on bad terms. There will still be a lot of hurt feelings and issues that need to be resolved. And while that will happen later on down the road, below I am going to share with you 4 simple things you can do to get your foot back in the door.
Start With A Text
If you haven't spoken to your ex in a while try starting with a nice, simple text message. After all, you never know if they have moved on and found someone new. Make sure the text is sweet. Think of a great time the two of you shared together and share that via text.
For example, if you and your ex use to go to a certain restaurant all the time you can text them and say "hey, just passed by our favorite restaurant. Brought back a lot of great memories. Hope you are doing well!"
And that's all you have to say. If they respond that's a good sign. It doesn't mean they want to rekindle. But it does mean they are open to talk.
Take It Slow
Often times when your ex responds you want to quickly jump and start moving too fast. Don't do this. Take your time. You don't want to rush back into the relationship. Just because you have a history with this person doesn't mean you can go from zero to 60 in a matter of days.
You have to remember, there are a lot of issues that must first be resolved. And if you truly want your ex back you have to be willing to be patient and work through those issues.
Own Up To Your Mistakes
Before you even try to get back with your ex you need to take the time to evaluate the relationship and yourself. When a relationship fails both parties have to be willing to accept their part. No one is perfect. And trust me, there are some things you have done in the past that you need to own up to. This is the hardest part for most people.
They just want to move on like nothing ever happened. That won't fly. In order to start the process of rebuilding trust you must first own up to the mistakes you made in the relationship the first time around. Now is not the time to let your pride get in the way. Its time to swallow your pride and take responsibility for your actions. It doesn't matter what the other person did, you own up to what you did.
Avoid Rehashing The Past
I know this is very hard to do. Especially when there are a lot of hurt feelings involved. But if you want to move forward, you have to acknowledge the problem, discuss it and move on. You can't go down memory lane and bring up every single thing you felt they did wrong. At some point you need to let it go so the two of you can start rebuilding your relationship.
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